Okayy Ohh... WATCH THIS VIDEO... very intresting:
So my people,
How u guys find am..?
Interracial relationships... Multicultural Companionship... Oyingbo jam Dudu?
It's funny cause i came across the this other video recently and it got me thinking aswell, unfortunately you can only see it via face book so take a look at this link: https://www.facebook.com/video/video.php?v=1963559021783
Well after seeing it, i began to think... White man marry black babe like me... Wetin dey now?
Back in the days when i started 'dating' my mum sat me down and told me the ground rules, there were pretty simple at the time:1) Don't spoil yourself (no sex)
2) Don't befriend a non believer
3) Don't befriend oyingbo
I remember them days when she recited those her 3 Commandments and for my mind no wohala, no long ting. But as i got abit older i was able to get a greater understanding of why she said that i should have sex or "spoil myself" like she rightfully put it lol because of the christian teaching of avoiding all forms of sexual immorality including pre marital sex... plus the risk of carrying belle and all that razz, i got it... i understood why she said that i should remain in my christian roots when dating and not date an unbeliever because of the biblical teaching that tells us not to get unequally yoked and besides the idea of my pickin being a wetin dey call am these days ehhhh "chrislum" half christian and half muslim just made nooo sense to me, the whole thing was kolo considering that despite popular beliefs Christianity and islam do not support each other, you can not serve Allah and serve God who came as flesh as Jesus Christ... buuuuttt that a topic for next time... but yeaahh.. however what if i met one fine white man like that who was a believer in Christ? Wetin my mama go say? Beside wasn't that racist!?
Sooo after years of thinking my mumzie may have been racist i finally gathered all my courage to can and quietlllyyy confront her, making sure i give her a 4meter gap just in case she tried to land slap for my face at any point of our conversation... However the revelation i got shocked me well well. What i came to realize was that it wasn't anything to do with the skin color at all but the fear of her children's children having a diluted culture. You see the Nigerian culture is one of the few things us as Nigerians have hold on too for centuries.. it is linage, our cooking, our music, our vibrant dance, our literature, our language, our lingos, our ceremonies, our rituals even down to how we bring up our children.
There are just unwritten traditions that has passed on from generations to generations that have allowed us to survive for this long, survive and still be strong. For instance, ask any naija kid, if you go to a older family friends house you don't just hold out your hand and greet them "hello gbenga, wassup?" ehhhhnnn the man would look at you as if you were something that commot for his nyash! Ahhnn you wan mek him deal wit you. Wolahi!! in fact by the time that man has finished with you, your ikegbe kuku become pancake nyash, i sorry for you! But u de feel me? them sort of situation u prostrate or bow and you greet dem referring to as UNCLE and greet them very formally, either in your language or in english. That is just one example... Soo my mumzie was explaining to me that to teach alllllll these small small traditions and cultures to white people would be tedious for both them and yourself, because there culture is pretty laid back, so much so that they come across like they don't have much of a culture unless it entails going to the pub or have sunday roast lol..
After her talk i came to realize that it had nothing at all to do with racism but rather fear.. fear of having a generation of nigerians that didn't really know who they were as BLACK AFRICANS. Lets keep this ting real here, truth be told even if you got a british passport or a american passport you are firstly AFRICAN before you are an american or british and God Forbid they want to send us back to our land we got to stop decieving ourselves and realize that really and truly this land we are living in whether it be america or uk or somewhere else in Europe does not belong to us! I deh lie?!?! Soooo it was the dominating fear of having her gran kids not know who they really where as Nigerians that made her make that her final commandments... but things have changed since then, cultures are more excepting, i believe personally that you can marry a white american and they would embrace your culture as a Nigerian wholeheartedly and teach it to your children and vise versa.. it all depends on how determined you are to not loose your culture, and also if your other half is willing to learn your culture as much as you want to learn his or hers....Funny thing is that there is culture clash even among the Nigerian Race itself, Trust me. I am from Edo state a place called Auchi and 99% of my friends are Yoruba... living in london where Yoruba people run tingz unlike the US where Ibo people are the baba's it can get very isolating for a simple edo girl like me... because at uni, at home, at church they all tend to forget that i don't speak yoruba like they do so once in a while i got to remind them that i have no single idea what they are talking about so translate please lolll... if you're lucky like me to have understanding friends it could be alot easier but if not it can still be very annoying... listen, even my boyfriend although we are both from edo state he grew up there and i did not... so i am still very much diluted in my understanding of culture and how a Nigerian Girlfriend is suppose to be like but again he simple teaches me...
In relationships there is nothing more great than to have a man that is a great teacher and to have a woman that is a great learner... Wisdom can be passed on by teaching and willing to be taught... Whether or not you are a man or a woman it is vital that if you decide to get involve in an interracial relationship or even an intercultural relationship that BOTH of you are willing to adapt and still maintain a healthy level of the other one's culture... listen joh, i have met some mixed race chicks that rap in Yoruba yet cook Sunday roasts and Yorkshire puddings loll
Astalavista Baby!!
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